Love and Pleasure, Money, Exploitation, and Sharing

The whole issue, of the economic independence of men and women, love and desire, and economic exploitation, is a somewhat complex one, which needs to be clarified and explained, and which is what I will do in this article.

Two old friends of mine - who I no longer have anything to do with - had some very misogynist, distorted, and very inaccurate views about women, and they then wondered why women didn’t really want anything to do with them.

Along with these very simple-minded and distorted views, these two old friends had about women, they also had an admiration for Hitler and the Nazis, along with some extreme anti-Semitism (even though they described themselves as socialists), and the fact that they eventually tried to bully me, and impose all these views on me by shouting me down, was the main reason why I stopped seeing them.

These two old friends of mine, said that all women were just into emotional and physical sensations (rather than intellect and principles), that all women lied about the fact that they loved men, and were just simply manipulative, cruel, and deceitful in that way, that all women just used men for sex which was all women really desired and wanted, and that all women really cared about and loved was money.

On the other hand, these two old friends were OK towards women socially, and I think they really still love and respect women, but they are in some ways very ignorant, and know no better. They also feel hurt, from being rejected in the past by some women, and they are not very good at understanding human psychology and emotions. Whilst I hate these two old friends’ very negative and distorted views about women and the Jews, I think a lot of this was just their macho boasting and hard-talk - which they didn’t really mean - and in some other ways I still love them, because they do also have some very good human qualities and characteristics - they have nothing much in their lives but books and classical music - and they have had some other hardships and tragedies in their lives, which have very badly affected them.

These two old friends, may have had some "bad experiences", with some women in the past, which they have very much misperceived, not really understood, and which has overall very much stereotyped their views of all women - and the fact they often see prostitutes for sex - might have again made them misperceive this, not really understand it, and led to them having these very inaccurate, very hypocritical, and very stereotypical views about prostitutes, and about other women in general.

Whilst it may be argued, that prostitutes exploit men for love and sex, so do some other women in society who are not prostitutes, and the fact is, that many men also get a kick, and in some ways enjoy letting women exploit them economically for love and/or sex, but which is also related to the issues of generosity and sharing.

Of course, many women pay their way in society, and do not exploit men financially for love and sex, but then again, if we all just simply paid our way and were purely economically independent as individuals, it would be a very selfish, pleasureless, and loveless society and world, and I don’t believe that human beings, society, and the world is really simply just like that.

If we were to be very critical and rejecting, of all aspects of so-called financial exploitation for love and pleasure (because some people say that all love and sex should be completely free), then we may as well reject the entire capitalist system, but which would be foolish to do so, in that sweeping or total way. Everyone pays money, for products in society, such as food, clothes, and other entertainment and leisure activities and material things - including things like music and art which give us feelings of beauty and love - and so on that level and in that regard, there’s not much difference in paying money for love and sex, as in one way or another, most people do this in some shape or form anyway - and again - it is very much connected and related to the issues of wider love, desire, intentions and expectations, and sharing.

Whilst there is undoubtedly, such a thing as economic exploitation, men will sometimes exchange money for love and/or sex, because they want to show their generosity and sharing - although obviously sharing is to a great extent a mutual or two-way thing - but these men are making a statement about this, and want some kind of equal or related response or return from women, whilst at the same time, we should all understand and respect the fact, that the economic independence of men and women, are important and valid too.