The Language of Cruelty, Coarseness, Ignorance, and Disrespect

When others irrationally or very unreasonably hate others, this actually stems from self-hatred and self-loathing. What's more, being immoral against another or a third party in all of these ways with cruelty, coarseness, ignorance, and disrespect, is very often done in order to raise the other's or third parties self-esteem and make this other victimised person morally or in some other way superior to them, and indeed this can sometimes be the result or consequence of all of this. Thus, the person in the dominant or nasty and verbally aggressive role, secretly wants to be submissive.

Irrational and very unreasonable hatred of another person, and the language of cruelty, coarseness, ignorance, and disrespect, can also often be resentment and bitterness of other family members and more richer and powerful people in society, and which then becomes repressed and displaced in order to project these very resentful and bitter character traits of themselves onto others, and in order to stigmatise and scapegoat people for the evils of the economic system and/or the past and present culture and society.

In actual fact and reality, there is also a huge suspension of critical faculties involved in all of this, as people who use the language of cruelty, coarseness, ignorance, and disrespect, are very aggressively, crudely, hypocritically, and ignorantly critical of others, and sometimes of themselves a bit, but they have no kind of political, cultural, and social criticisms or critique, nor any kind of awareness, knowledge, and what's more they have absolutely no understanding of how all of these things influences and affects their own psychological behaviours and others, and of people in general.

Jealousy is a very human thing and sometimes justified, but it's when it becomes irrational and out-of-context without any real kind of justification in reality, then it is somewhat psychotic or pathological and mentally unwell, or as some people would say it becomes a bit dangerous and evil. Also, hatred aimed at a third party, is very often hatred aimed at a second party for their love, concern, care, or sensitivity towards the third person or party, which again becomes displaced and projected onto the third person or party.

The issue of forgiveness in all of this, due to a deeper understanding of the nasty and cruel person's bad learnt behaviours, the fact that they have been or are in some ways stigmatised and scapegoated themselves in some ways, and a deeper understanding of the mental unwellness and pathology of irrational, psychotic, and very unreasonable hatred and jealousy, should not involve permission or collusion with all or any of those things.

Whilst everyone deserves a second chance to change or reform their cruel, disrespectful, coarse, and ignorant behaviours and language towards others, it's not appropriate or right to repeatedly allow them to keep on doing this, although one can indeed continuously learn from it and increase one's own self-esteem, but this might be taken by the other as permission and encouragement of their bad behaviours and their language of cruelty, coarseness, ignorance, and disrespect if they continue to do all of these things.

Peter H. Donnelly
2011